It has been a week since the Final Farewell and celebration of life for my dear friend, Claire. Our friendship, cultivated over 30 years, was rich with laughter, joy and a touch of mischief. We didn’t allow cancer to steal that and continued to celebrate life, share laughter and lattes, and create memories which will always make me smile. 💞
But grief is difficult to navigate, and at times overwhelming. So often when someone dies the message we hear is, “Rest in Peace”. I have never liked that phrase, and even less so, the acronym “RIP”. So instead, I penned and posted this letter. The response was overwhelming. We all need to find a way to carry our grief, and this has helped me, as well as others who loved her.
You know me, always the rebel…I don’t want you to rest in peace. I know…can you believe it?
I want you to laugh. I want you to breathe and move with ease. Free of pain at last, I want you to golf, garden, walk and ride your bike. I want you to cruise in the ’66, windows down, music blasting. I want you to have shopping, lunch and movie dates. I want you to wander through your flower garden as you sip your morning coffee. I want you to enjoy a glass of wine, or two, as you watch sunsets from your favourite balcony in Maui.
I want you to look others in the eye and truthfully say, “I’m fine,” or better yet, “I’m fabulous!” I want your treasured moments of solitude to be free of worry and concern. I want you to sleep only because you are tired from a day well spent.
All those things cancer stole from you, I want you to have back. No resting easy for you my friend. I want you to be joyful, content and happy. I want you to do whatever you damn well please, whenever you want. And just maybe you can find a friend or two, to stir up trouble with…but only the good kind, of course! 😉
Always with much love and laughter,